Conflict cycles with couples

January 13, 2016 in Couples, Concepts, How I work

Below is a video of me explaining what conflict cycles are and how they can cause difficulty in relationships.

Note: If you have problems loading the video you can also watch it on YouTube.

For more information:

Johnson, S. M. (2008). Hold me tight: Seven conversations for a lifetime of love. New York: Little, Brown & Co.

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